Nobody Gets Out AliveQuestions people ask
Plain answers, in a few lines. None of this is medical advice.
What is an advance directive?
An advance directive is a written statement of the kind of care you do and don’t want if you can’t speak for yourself. A living will is one kind. The forms and rules differ by state and country. Read more: Advance directive and living will
Who should be my health care proxy?
Your health care proxy is the person you name to make medical decisions for you if you can’t. Choose someone who knows you well, can stay steady under pressure, and is willing to speak up for what you want. Then tell them what you want, because being named is not enough. Read more: Health care proxy
What do DNR and DNI mean?
DNR means do not resuscitate: an instruction not to do CPR if your heart stops or you stop breathing. DNI means do not intubate: an instruction not to place a breathing tube. They are medical orders, they are a choice, and they can be changed. Read more: DNR and DNI orders
What is the difference between palliative care and hospice?
Palliative care focuses on comfort and quality of life and can be given alongside treatment at any stage of a serious illness. Hospice is comfort-focused care for the last stage of life, often at home. Read more: Palliative care
Does an advance directive mean doctors will stop treating me?
Not by itself. An advance directive says what you want if you can’t speak for yourself, so your care follows your wishes. It guides your care rather than ending it, and it does not mean giving up. Talk with your doctor about how yours would work.
How do I start the conversation?
Start small. This week, have one small conversation with one person. You could ask: “If something happened and I couldn’t speak for myself, what would you want me to know about what you’d want?” Then listen. Read more: How to start the conversation
Is this medical advice?
No. This podcast and website are for general conversation and education only. They are not medical, legal or financial advice. Laws and options around end-of-life care vary by location, so please speak with your doctor and a qualified professional about your own situation.